22 Things I learned at 22.

"We're happy, free, confused, and lonely in the best way. It's miserable and magical."
Feelin' 22.


1. Be kind; always. A simple smile can go a long way. You never know what someone is going through. We all have problems, we all have issues. We all have scars, we all have stories.

2. Everything’s temporary. People, things, feelings. When things are going good, cherish it. When things are going bad, it’s going to pass. Don’t worry.

3. Invest in yourself. Make yourself happy. Make time for yourself. Take care of yourself. Spoil yourself. Do you. Because in the end, the only person who really got you, is yourself.

4. Like my Grandpa said, “It’s never too late to begin, but it will be very late if you never start.” Success doesn’t have a time line. Someone's else accomplishments aren’t the absence of yours. Doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you don’t stop going. Keep growing. Growth is so important.

5. Be adventurous. Follow the adventure. Be full of life and good spirits. Travel as much as you can and as far as you can. The world is yours.

6. Everything happens for a reason even if sometimes you don’t know what the reason is. Don’t force anything. Be like water, just flow~

7. Karma is real. Good karma, bad karma. What goes around, comes back around.

8. Surround yourself with genuine people who see greatness within you even when you don’t see it yourself. It’s true when people say you are who you surround yourself with. Spend time with people who makes you feel alive and happy.

9. You’re going to lose people who you never thought you’ll never lose. That person you promise to love forever? Forever eventually ends somewhere. That best-friend you swear to do everything with? Life happens and you two will grow apart. And family members who you thought you’d have forever to spend with? Death is a part of life.

10. To be good enough is never going to be enough. As long as you truly believe that you are good enough, then that’s enough. Someone will always try to bring you down and talk about you behind your back, but you must not show defeat. Instead, use that negativity to make yourself stronger, better. You are enough.

11. Fall in love with someone who asks about your day every single day, multiple times a day. Fall in love with someone who doesn’t make you question where you stand in their life. Fall in love with someone who goes the extra mile for you. Fall in love with someone who accepts all your flaws and loves you for being you.

12. The problem is we think we have time. Oh, I’ll do it later. I’ll do it tomorrow. I’ll eventually do it. Truth is, we never know what tomorrow will bring. Life is a crazy ride; nothing, but death, is guaranteed. If not now, then when?

13. Do not be afraid to fail. You are not going to be good at everything you want to be in life, and that’s okay. Don’t let failure discourage you. Instead, let failure encourage you and build yourself back up. Don’t give up on yourself.

14. It is okay to feel and to feel a lot. Showing that you have emotions make you that much more human. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. We humans can endure more than we think we can.

15. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to help themselves no matter how hard you try. And you can’t help anyone if you can’t help yourself.

16. Stop waiting. Stop waiting for the weekend. Stop waiting for happiness. Stop waiting for someone to fall in love with you. Start living everyday like it’s the weekend. Make the most out of every moment.

17. Appreciate the little things in life for it’s the little things that matters the most.

18. Let’s hope we all make it in the end. The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday. Don’t compete with anyone.

19. Volunteer. Volunteer your time to help make a difference whether it’s something big or something small. Knowing that you made a small difference somewhere, somehow gives you one of the best feelings ever.

20. Photograph everything. Take photos. Lots of them. You cannot re-live a moment, but a picture will show you that the moment happened and it was real.

21. Just because you had a bad day doesn’t mean you have a bad life. Forgive yourself and do better tomorrow.

22. Always stay true to yourself. The one thing that you have that nobody else has is, you. Your voice. Your mind. Your soul. Your story. Your vision. No one will ever be as good at being you, than you.

LA - Santa Monica

LA - June 25th, 2016

As I’m getting my hair done, I get a text from my boyfriend#2 asking if I wanted to go to LA for a day. I’m sitting there full of excitement because it was either LA, SanFran, or NYC. I would’ve went to all three places in one weekend if I could’ve, lol. But I decided to go to LA cause I’ve always wanted to go there! Going to LA for one day was probably the most spontaneous thing I have ever done and I enjoyed every single moment of it. Didn’t do much except eat, walk around the strip, and lay on the beach. Oh, how I’ve missed the beach! Just sun soakin’, digging my feet into the sand, listening to the sound of the waves, looking out the view of the ocean, what could be better? And, there was even a wedding at Santa Monica beach! It was soooo cute. My dream wedding is to be at the beach and it’s gonna come true one day! <3 It was such a genuinely great feeling to just get on a plane and leave somewhere for a day. Definitely makes me want to live my life more adventurously and spontaneously. I’m always down for an adventure! This is how I should be living my life. Knowing myself more. Discovering myself. Creating myself. Living the good life. 

And a huge thank you to my boyfriend#2 for making all this possible. <3 We don’t talk as much anymore, but just know that I still do appreciate you, always.

 

 

 

 

 

Focus.

Pillow talk. Food for thought.

So, I was just texting a friend who was stressed about life and it got me thinking too. Sometimes in life you just feel lost. Stuck. Your mind clutters. Same thing, different day. It gets too repetitive and everything just seems so bland. Then you start to question yourself, “What am I doing with my life?” And then you start to feel like you’re not really living. You start to feel like your living your life worthlessly. And worse, you start to compare your life to others. Comparing yourself to others is a battle in which you will lose every time. Someone else’s accomplishments in life is not the absence of yours. The things you lack is confidence, motivation, & inspiration.

And then I realized, your life is only as exciting and adventurous as you make it. You are the creator of your life. You are the writer, the author of your book. Close the chapters that makes you feel less. Write new ones. If you start to feel stuck, take the initiative to change something about your life. One day at a time, one change at a time. Good change takes time. Don’t expect magic to happen overnight. And do not be afraid of change. If you can dream it, you can achieve it. Go on more adventures. Be around good energy. Connect with people. Learn new things. Grow. Good vibes only.

So focus. Don’t let anything or anyone distract you. Love yourself, put yourself first. Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have. Find what brings you joy and go there. And it doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you don’t stop going. Focus.

Chicago meets the Lions.

I’m like damn she’s fine
Wonder when she’ll be mine
She walk past, I press rewind
To see that ass one more time
And I got this sewed up
Remy Boyz, they know us.”

From the moment we got there to the moment we left, this song was stuck in my head, lol! My friends were so annoyed of me, but they didn’t have a choice cause they were stuck with me ;p I’ve been hanging out with these lions for almost a year now and it was fun taking a first mini-trip outside of Minnesota. I always enjoy hanging out with them cause the vibes are always good. This spontaneous & quick trip to Chicago was exactly what I needed. Even though I was only in Chicago for a day and a half, it gave me room to breathe. I started to feel a little suffocated in Minnesota. Not literally, but you know that feeling when you have not had a vacation in so long or you’ve been in one place for so long you start to feel like… “what am I doing with my life?” Yeeeah.

Adventuring through Chicago was fun, but what made it memorable was the people I was with. From the adrenaline at the sky deck to exploring China Town to riding the subway to trying to find bars downtown was all a great adventure. As I grew older, I learned to buy experiences rather than buy things. Having stories to tell makes me much happier than having things to show. Yenno? I’m still slowly working on it, but I want to invest my life more on experiences & memories rather than materialistic things. Cause let’s be real, in the end, saying that you’ve traveled to a lot of different places is gonna feel much more pleasant than saying you got the latest version of an iphone or expensive shoes that you’re probably gonna wear once or twice or that expensive car that you almost can’t afford to pay for or whatever that materialistic thing is. At least for me anyways. Unless you a millionaire or something, idk lol. But just a little food for thought, that’s all.